I asked Boston and New England wedding and event planner Tasha Bracken from Tasha Bracken Events, to share some tips for couples that might be feeling a little overwhelmed with wedding planning! Read her amazing advice below!
As a couple planning your wedding, you are caught in a myriad of details – booking your vendors, preparing your guest lists, listening to unsolicited advice from everyone. It’s a lot and can make the planning process stressful. And most couples feel that this is the way it is. You’ll have time to relax when you’re on your honeymoon.
It doesn’t have to be that way. You should enjoy the planning process just as much as the wedding day. There are so many fun events that make up your engagement – showers, engagement parties, bachelorette/bachelorette weekends (or now many are making it an entire week). You want to look
back and cherish these memories with love and gratitude, rather than remembering it was one of the most stressful times of your life.
As a wedding planner, one of my goals is to make sure our couples enjoy the engagement period and planning as well as the big day. It’s one of the reasons clients are so happy they hired me. Not only did I make sure the wedding day was an unforgettable celebration, but that the process was fun and filled with lasting memories with family and friends.
Here are Tasha’s top 5 tips
for enjoying the planning process
1. Write down negotiables and non-negotiables
This is one of the first things I recommend couples do when they start planning. I highly recommend doing it before you meet with families to talk about the vision for the big day. Everyone will have opinions, and it’s crucial you are true to yourself and don’t compromise on the most important things.
2. Hire a planner
We all know a planner on the wedding day can be a lifesaver. But the real value of a planner is their ability to guide you through the entire process. Since they have done this before, a planner will implement processes and help you complete tasks that are time-consuming and take you away from living your life. You don’t need to be bogged down with the organizational details. Their efficiency and experience can ensure you enjoy the entire process. When considering planners, be sure to ask them what systems they use to help keep clients organized and on track.
3. Give yourself enough time to plan
In the age of instant gratification, the thought of planning a wedding a year in advance seems crazy. But, there are so many elements that take time, and if you don’t make decisions quickly, you want the chance to evaluate your choices. I highly recommend 8 to 12 months. It will also give you time to take a break from planning and come back refreshed.
4. Schedule specific times to talk about the wedding.
If you’re both home Sunday nights, make that your “wedding planning” night where you prepare your list of action items and questions. This way, during the week, you won’t feel like all you talk about is the wedding.
5. Take a mini-moon, AKA time for yourself
I know everyone is thinking, but there will be the honeymoon. Trust me two months or so before the wedding; you’ll want to take a short trip (even if it’s just a weekend) to relax and not think about your wedding.
Your engagement time is all about having fun, creating memories with friends and family. It’s the only time you’ll be in this phase of your relationship, embrace it!
Tasha Bracken is a wedding and event planner based in Boston serving New England and Beyond! Her goal is to make your entire event planning journey easy, seamless, and enjoyable.
Couple’s Wedding Portrait by Boston Photographer Rachel Kate.